A parent should never have to bury their child.  In a perfect world a parent should never have to witness their child get sick, get hurt, or die, but this world is not a perfect one as weall know.  The blogosphere is a wide world, there are a lot of people and there are a lot of things going on.  I call a little portion of the blogosphere my own and it is inhabited by other bloggers; mostly mom bloggers who can be found floating around on the forum of www.Momdot.com.

Last night the tragedy that is our imperfect world hit home when I learned (through Momdot and Twitter) that one of the mom bloggers I have interacted with lost her two year old son in a drowning accident.

I cannot imagine the feelings that Shellie (otherwise known as www.Blog4Mom.comand @Miltary_Mom on twitter) is feeling.  I have tried to put myself in her shoes and I honestly can not fathom the pain, grief, numbness and other emotions that she must be feeling; all I know is that I cry for the tradgety.  No mom should ever have her child die and no child should be robbed on a full life.

I also try to put myself in the shoes of Shellie’s older son who has lost a younger brother, and again I can’t imagine the feeling.  I am an only child so I don’t know about the sibling connection except for what I have seen from my girls, and this will be a time of grief, pain and a whole world of emotions that a young boy should never have to feel or deal with.

I feel like I should be using a word different than the word “loss” or “lost”.  Lost means that you misplaced your keys or your favorite sweatshirt, this is not a word that should be applied to a life, to a life of a little boy who had yet to experience life.  He died.  A child died; he was not lost and this is not is mother’s loss.  This is the death of a part of Shellie’s life, her life will never be the same and neither will the life of her other children.  It’s unbearable.  It’s heartbreaking.  It’s tragic.  And it sure as h*ll isn’t fair.

I stay out of online drama…I don’t need the negative energy or karma in my life, and because of my need to stay away from the drama I am going to keep this short.  There are people in the blogosphere who feel the need to be nasty, say awful things, and use this opportunity to pursue petty vendetta’s and I can not believe this negativity and behavior.  Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.  We are all sinners.  Before anyone feels the need to be nasty or comment on that which they do not know about, they should put themselves in the position of Shellie and her sons and their family; do you honestly think your negativity is doing anything besides causing them to relive the death of their special little boy?  Shame, you bring shame to yourself.

I am not a religious person, but I am a spiritual person and I do believe in the power of positive thoughts and prayer.  Nothing will ever bring Shellie’s son back, but I ask for everyone to take a minute to send positive thoughts to her and her family; thoughts for healing, for hope, for peace.  Then take a minute to look at your family and realize how blessed you are.