The Mommy Confessions: There are Times When I Prefer to Be Around One Kid More Than the Other
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So, there are times when I would much rather be around just Ellie or when I would rather be around just Eve. It isn’t because I like one girl more than the other or because I have a favorite, it is just because I enjoy having alone time with each of the girls…and because sometimes one girl is behaving better than the other. So, I am hoping that I am not the only mom out there who prefers to be around one of their kids more than the other from time to time? Am I? Do I need to not do that? Will it effect them in the long run when they get older? Who knew there were so many ways to worry about screwing up your kids?
Each child needs special time with their mommy and daddy one on one. I have 4 and I struggle to get them one on one, but when I do its the best. I get to focus on them and I swear they act different when they are alone with me. Like a whole other child.
i think you’re good. they need the 1 on 1 just as much as you do;)
I raised six and found little time for the one on one, but as the kids aged, daddy would take one out to ‘work’ with him on the farm; or when the older ones started school, I could take the younger ones to the park or shopping. It does get easier as they get older. I’m noticing with my grandkids (my oldest has 4 boys all under 5) that the oldest one is starting to give his mom attitude. I think it’s part of a power struggle….(dad is out 10-12 hours a day 5 days a week). My DIL is very particular and doesn’t understand the kid’s melt downs when she picks his clothes out for him. I suggested that he needs to have some control…give him a choice of two outfits that she picks and let him feel like he has some control over his life. He starts school this fall and she needs to let him begin his ‘independence’ now, so he can function away from her. For the most part, kids get raised and they aren’t screwed up much from our mistakes….you seem to be doing your best and that’s all that can be expected of anyone. Continue to care and it’ll turn out fine.
I dont think there is anything wrong with spending individual time with each child. I think it is important and makes them feel important.
There are times I prefer to be around one child rather the other. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. I don’t love one any more than the other, or like one better, as you stated. I think kids want some alone time with their parents too, without the other kid being around, so I think it’s good for them!
I think every mom is like that, whether or not they want to admit it. Somedays, one kid is just so terrible I don’t even want to look at them, then the next they are the best. It seems like the rotate who will be bad!